How to manage the after divorce period
It’s always so useful to read various articles on the net about the topics you’re interested in. That way, I’ve found an extremely well-written article here, and I am quoting a few lines as they would be useful for this topic:
The divorce process can bring about a sense of loss of self and many questions regarding who you are as a person. Some of the best ways of reestablishing your own sense of self are through a routine at work and home.
The emotional weight placed on your shoulders as you go through the divorce experience cannot be understated. It can feel like an aspect of yourself that you loved and relied on is no longer there, forcing you to acknowledge what is missing.
First, you need to take some time to think over what you have lost and what has been gained. The decisions and life put on hold for the duration of the divorce process must be re-opened. It is quite possible to have a good relationship while going through a divorce. It only takes time to let go of the past’s hurt and fears and open to the present's new possibilities.
However, you should take care of yourself physically and emotionally and try to stay balanced as possible. Eat healthily and get adequate sleep. Exercising regularly and keeping track of your body mass index is a step in the right direction.
If you have a limiting belief that you cannot lose weight, take it off. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that you can’t lose weight. It takes energy and a willingness to go beyond what you have done before and after (I am developing a few ideas from another article about whether men are happier after divorce).
You always need to be highly aware of your emotions. If you are in a place where you feel unable to express yourself, seek counseling, talk to a trusted friend, or speak to a therapist. Suppose you want to tell someone but have a fear of the outcome. In that case, you can tell your spouse or a trusted friend, but make sure that you choose a person you know you will not be getting upset with the conversation results.
If you are still finding it very challenging to come to terms with the divorce, find a therapist, a counselor that you feel safe telling the details of your marriage. He will help you process the things that have happened.
Your divorce should not affect your marriage in a way that turns it into an unhappy one. If the two of you are not on the same page anymore, you may have a problem. If you find yourself questioning whether you love him/her any more than you did when you got married, it may be time to take a step back look at the relationship.